Not sure I CAN let go....
The love of my life has been gone for over a year and refused to speak to me for 8 months now. This is no "puppy-dog" love; I'm 40 and have been around the block. I want to move on, but she's with my best friend and she still tries to get work at my fraternal organization which I introduced her to several years ago. She still calls my mother, has all of our same friends (I'm actually thinking of dumping friends to resolve this), has lots of my property and all of my heart. STILL.I'm trying to move on and at least resolve old relationships (going well on that front), but where do I draw the line? Do I just need to relocate across country again to avoid her? Or is it wrong of me to ask that she consider my feelings when she shows up where I'm trying to do God's work? Please help, this is one confused fella here....I think about her several times every day and know she does too...HELP!
Prayers And Encourgements
There's a bit of irony in your last line there - grammarically there's an insinuation that several times a day she thinks about herself, and that sounds like the truth.
There's no easy answer for what you're facing, I'm afraid to say. But I can recommend this; Before you make your plans to pack it into a Uhaul to heal your heart, consider praying for her everytime you think about her - and I mean *every* time. I'm sure you've already been praying for her at length. But if every time she crosses your mind you shift to praying for her needs, and praying for your own ability to let go, you keep the focus on God's ability to mend and the fact that she is simply another human being with needs as you are. It's certainly not wrong of you to ask that she consider where you're coming from - but be prepared for her lack of real response to the suggestion. Ultimately, it's up to you and God to begin and continue in your healing. Enlarge your circle of Christian friends to another circle that doesn't include her influence - a different small group, a different church, etc. Try on those changes first before you pick up your roots all over again. Most importantly, ask God where He wants you situated. I'm sure you've done that too. I'm just offering the reminder.
As I don't know you're name, I'll refer to you as Jake...God will insert your name that He knows. ;)
Lord, I ask you to continue your work in Jake's heart. We see in Your word that there's a time for everything, and that some seasons of healing last longer than we'd like but are necessary none the less. Bring new and supportive friends into his path that will offer him much needed distraction. Show him what talents he can polish up and use for you now that he's single. Heal his heart in such a way that he won't carry the injury of this relationship into any other, even friendships. Have your way in his life, Lord.
In Jesus name...
nng
There's no easy answer for what you're facing, I'm afraid to say. But I can recommend this; Before you make your plans to pack it into a Uhaul to heal your heart, consider praying for her everytime you think about her - and I mean *every* time. I'm sure you've already been praying for her at length. But if every time she crosses your mind you shift to praying for her needs, and praying for your own ability to let go, you keep the focus on God's ability to mend and the fact that she is simply another human being with needs as you are. It's certainly not wrong of you to ask that she consider where you're coming from - but be prepared for her lack of real response to the suggestion. Ultimately, it's up to you and God to begin and continue in your healing. Enlarge your circle of Christian friends to another circle that doesn't include her influence - a different small group, a different church, etc. Try on those changes first before you pick up your roots all over again. Most importantly, ask God where He wants you situated. I'm sure you've done that too. I'm just offering the reminder.
As I don't know you're name, I'll refer to you as Jake...God will insert your name that He knows. ;)
Lord, I ask you to continue your work in Jake's heart. We see in Your word that there's a time for everything, and that some seasons of healing last longer than we'd like but are necessary none the less. Bring new and supportive friends into his path that will offer him much needed distraction. Show him what talents he can polish up and use for you now that he's single. Heal his heart in such a way that he won't carry the injury of this relationship into any other, even friendships. Have your way in his life, Lord.
In Jesus name...
nng
Posted by Natalie Nicole on 11/26/2007 @ 1:44 PM
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