A baby without parents
I just learned I am pregnant. I dont think our marriage can survive this. My Husband has an additction to porn. We are ready to file bankruptcy (literally) I am supposed to have an abortion tomorrow. We have a 15 year old boy (his) and a 15 month old girl (ours) His Mother lives with us, she is mean, bitter and hates that he is Married (2 years now)I am heart broken over how he is handeling the stress in our lives and frankly, I dont have much heart left.I thought I (we) were well on our way to gaining ground and finding peace... now, I see I am far from grace, from god and from any sort of peace.
I could really use some prayers.
Please
In God,
Melissa
Prayers And Encourgements
Melissa,
Doll I've been in the same situation sort of. First of all, let me say that children are only as expensive as you make them (do they really need 10 pairs of shoes or a ton of toys?) Today's generations of kids are unimaginative, too overindulged, and not physically as active as we once were. All a child needs is the essentials, love, shelter, clothing, and food/water. The rest will fall into place. A child is always more a blessing than a burden! I found myself pregnant by my new boyfriend when my first daughter was only 15 months old--and I was going through a VERY nasty split with her dad at that time too. I honestly didn't think I could do it, but I stuck it out and now my second daughter is one of the greatest things to ever happen to me! They play so wonderfully together and it's more a help then a hinderance. Please think about it before you go through with the abortion. The heart starts beating somewhere around 4-5 weeks. If you really don't think you could raise another child, then SERIOUSLY consider adoption. There are SOOOO many people out there who wish they could have children and yet find themselves infertile. If you really look to God, you will find what the right answer is for this situation. And as for your husband and his mother, all you can do is pray for them. We can't control others, but God can.
Doll I've been in the same situation sort of. First of all, let me say that children are only as expensive as you make them (do they really need 10 pairs of shoes or a ton of toys?) Today's generations of kids are unimaginative, too overindulged, and not physically as active as we once were. All a child needs is the essentials, love, shelter, clothing, and food/water. The rest will fall into place. A child is always more a blessing than a burden! I found myself pregnant by my new boyfriend when my first daughter was only 15 months old--and I was going through a VERY nasty split with her dad at that time too. I honestly didn't think I could do it, but I stuck it out and now my second daughter is one of the greatest things to ever happen to me! They play so wonderfully together and it's more a help then a hinderance. Please think about it before you go through with the abortion. The heart starts beating somewhere around 4-5 weeks. If you really don't think you could raise another child, then SERIOUSLY consider adoption. There are SOOOO many people out there who wish they could have children and yet find themselves infertile. If you really look to God, you will find what the right answer is for this situation. And as for your husband and his mother, all you can do is pray for them. We can't control others, but God can.
Posted by Amy on 12/5/2007 @ 10:29 AM
Your heart will heal with time, and you are never far from God. You will be in my prayers.
Posted by Pamela on 12/5/2007 @ 1:04 PM
I am so sorry for your pain. I hope and pray that you keep the baby. It is a miracle. Do not through it away. God will bless you for this. I had an abortion and 25 years later I still hate myself for it and pray for Gods forgiveness. Be strong in the lord. Lean on him. He will hold you up if you let him. I've been through so much of what you write about. I promise you there will be better days. I'm praying for you Melissa. Please don't give up Hope.
Posted by PG on 12/6/2007 @ 3:23 PM
Melissa,
Funny we should meet here, I'm a bit frustrated with
life myself, but I think we are all here to help each other. I'm a hard person to help myself, I always feel more comfortable helping than asking fon help.
You sound like a strong person who knows what she should do, just needs support and encouragement. I remember a few years ago, I was at a crossroads in a health crisis and needed a treatment I wasn't sure I could handle. By no small miracle I had a coworker who was afflicted with the same relatively rare form of arthritis and helped me through to getting treatment. She really didn't know me all that well, but took me into her heart anyway and insisted that she help me overcome. It was only after that leap of generosity that we actually got to know each other at all. And I never forgot her kindness.
What I'm trying to say is, try to be as comfortable
being helped as you would be to help someone else.
I'll bet that no matter what you end up facing, you will have someone there to help, yes, God is there, but he also puts people in our path to help us if we wish to be....just recognize it when it's there....
.......I'm sure your friends have offered support...TAKE IT!!!
Funny we should meet here, I'm a bit frustrated with
life myself, but I think we are all here to help each other. I'm a hard person to help myself, I always feel more comfortable helping than asking fon help.
You sound like a strong person who knows what she should do, just needs support and encouragement. I remember a few years ago, I was at a crossroads in a health crisis and needed a treatment I wasn't sure I could handle. By no small miracle I had a coworker who was afflicted with the same relatively rare form of arthritis and helped me through to getting treatment. She really didn't know me all that well, but took me into her heart anyway and insisted that she help me overcome. It was only after that leap of generosity that we actually got to know each other at all. And I never forgot her kindness.
What I'm trying to say is, try to be as comfortable
being helped as you would be to help someone else.
I'll bet that no matter what you end up facing, you will have someone there to help, yes, God is there, but he also puts people in our path to help us if we wish to be....just recognize it when it's there....
.......I'm sure your friends have offered support...TAKE IT!!!
Posted by C..... on 12/7/2007 @ 8:08 PM
PLEASE don't abort your baby. There are other options...folks who would love to adopt the baby you are carrying. The church might have alternative resources for you. I will hold you close in my prayers, Melissa. Let the Lord carry you. Personal counseling might help you. I will pray you to find a support system that will be there for you and help you through this. You are so worth it! Remember, God loves you so much. Satan is working over-time to keep you from the Lord with all of the negatives in your life right now. Reach out, ask for help.
Posted by Cheri on 12/8/2007 @ 11:43 AM
MELISSA,
I HAD AN ABORTION WHEN I WAS 17 AND EVER SINCE THEN I HAVE ALWAYS FELT THAT SOMETHING IS MISSING. I HOPE TO ONE DAY MEET MY CHILD IN HEAVEN. I WILL PRAY FOR YOU AND PLEASE DONT HAVE THE ABORTION DONE GOD WILL BLESS YOUR DECISION.
I HAD AN ABORTION WHEN I WAS 17 AND EVER SINCE THEN I HAVE ALWAYS FELT THAT SOMETHING IS MISSING. I HOPE TO ONE DAY MEET MY CHILD IN HEAVEN. I WILL PRAY FOR YOU AND PLEASE DONT HAVE THE ABORTION DONE GOD WILL BLESS YOUR DECISION.
Posted by JESSICA on 2/22/2008 @ 8:39 PM
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